New research reveals parents who juggle the responsibilities of caring for both ageing relatives and young children experience poorer mental and physical health

In the UK, it is estimated that 1.3 million people are "sandwich carers," responsible for caring for both ageing relatives and young children. Research from University College London looked at nearly 2,000 people who cared for both older relatives and children, focusing on the extra unpaid caregiving duties they have. They found that parents taking on the responsibility of caring for a family member was linked to a decline in mental health, particularly for those who provided more than 20 hours of care per week.

There was also a deterioration in their physical health during this transition compared with non-sandwich carers, according to the findings. Dr Baowen Xue, lead author of the study, said that the findings highlight the significant mental and physical health challenges faced by sandwich carers.

Who are sandwich carers?

Sandwich carers are those who find themselves caring for both their children and an ageing or ill relative, often when they start their own families and a parent or close relative becomes unwell. This puts them "sandwiched" between two generations that require caregiving. Typically, sandwich carers are of working age, which means their professional lives can be impacted by their dual caregiving responsibilities.

Data from the Office for National Statistics (ONS) reveals that over a quarter of sandwich carers are now experiencing depression and anxiety. These carers are also facing financial hardship, with one in three reporting they are "just about managing," while one in 10 say they are "finding it difficult" or "very difficult" to cope financially.

Finding support as a carer 

Recognising the pressure of caring for loved ones while trying to maintain other aspects of life, it’s important that carers access the support they need. While the challenges can feel overwhelming, there are resources and strategies that can make a real difference.

Check your entitlements

In the UK, if you provide at least 35 hours of care per week for someone with a disability, you may be eligible for carer's allowance. You can visit the UK Government website to review the eligibility criteria. If you're not eligible for carer's allowance, you might still qualify for carer's credit, a national insurance credit available to those who care for someone for at least 20 hours a week. Exploring your options could make a real difference in easing the financial burden of caregiving, so it’s always worth finding out what support you might be entitled to. 

Carers UK

Carers UK provides practical support, advice and advocacy services to help carers navigate responsibilities. They also offer a helpline for anyone needing guidance on their rights or how to access support. 

Use your support network

Sometimes, simply expressing your frustrations can make a big difference. Talking to family members or friends about what you're going through can provide relief and you may discover that others are facing similar challenges. Sometimes, the smallest gestures can make a huge difference. For example, simply asking a visiting family member to prepare dinner can help to ease the load. While it might seem like a small ask, many carers find that managing visitors adds extra stress so involving them in simple tasks not only makes them feel helpful but also gives you one less thing to worry about.

Give yourself a break

Almost two-thirds of carers (64%) say that they have focused on the care needs of the person they care for and not on their own needs. In order to care for others, it’s important to take time for yourself. Whether it’s beginning your day with a few minutes of meditation or relaxing in front of the TV with a cup of tea, making time to recharge your own batteries should be a top priority. Carers Trust offers a helpful online resource that explores various options, including befriending and sitting services, as well as respite care and personal care assistants. 

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Here, we share some pointers to help you prioritise your own wellbeing and embrace self-care without guilt.

Talk to your employer 

If you're finding it hard to balance work and caregiving, it’s important to talk to your employer. Many employers offer flexible working options like adjusted hours, remote work, or paid or unpaid leave to support carers. Taking care of your own wellbeing is just as important as your work, and finding that balance is key to avoiding burnout. Many employers are more understanding and willing to help than we expect, especially if we open up early about our needs. 

Reach out to a professional

If things start to feel overwhelming, don't hesitate to seek professional support. Many therapists offer virtual sessions, allowing you to access the support you need from the comfort of your own home. You can find more information on counselling for carers on Counselling Directory.

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Additionally, don't forget to talk to your GP. They can offer support by assessing your mental and physical health and may refer you to relevant services, such as therapy or carer support groups. If you're feeling anxious, depressed, or exhausted, your GP can help you manage these symptoms and explore solutions. Remember, your health is just as important as the care you provide to others.